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Can erotic toys cause lack of ejaculatory control?

Written by: Anel Martínez

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Time to read 4 min

Erotic toys are here to stay. More and more couples are incorporating these products into their intimate life. And there is a wide range of toys designed to enhance pleasure in bed. However, as with any great phenomenon, there are two opposing positions. Those who defend that toys are a great ally in couple relationships and those who argue that many of these devices negatively affect performance and control.


If one thing is clear, it is that sexuality is an essential part of life , and factors such as ejaculatory control play a fundamental role in fully enjoying climax and intimate relationships. In fact, many people who face difficulties in this area admit to having problems with sexual confidence and satisfaction. That is why I am going to dedicate this article to clarify these and other doubts and offer you the best recommendation .

What is ejaculatory control?

Before we dive into how toys can affect control, we need to understand what ejaculatory control is : it is the ability to manage the ejaculatory reflex during intimate activity in order to prolong the experience and maximize pleasure , both for oneself and one's partner. Although it is a skill that varies from one person to another, the environment, psychological factors and the techniques practiced can have a considerable influence.


And, as we always say, good climax management not only improves the quality of intimate relationships, but also strengthens the emotional connection between partners.

But... when is a man considered a premature ejaculator?


A man is considered a premature ejaculator when he is unable to delay ejaculation during a sexual encounter for more than one or two minutes after penetration, although more and more experts point out that premature ejaculation is considered to occur earlier than desired. What we do have to keep in mind is that it must happen persistently and cause significant discomfort for both the person and his or her partner.

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What factors can cause a loss of ejaculatory control?


The main reasons why you may develop a lack of ejaculatory control are usually the result of a combination of several factors including physical, psychological and behavioral aspects. Let's break them down.

Physical factors

There are a number of problems, such as genital hypersensitivity, certain infections or other disorders of the reproductive system that influence sexual response. In addition, certain neurological conditions may also be involved.

Psychological factors

Here we come to the point that interests us in this article. And that is that the way in which you stimulate yourself or experiment in bed - such as the incorporation of certain erotic toys - can also influence the loss of control. Although, as you can imagine, in order to provoke significant changes in our ejaculatory reflex, it is necessary that these practices have been carried out relatively frequently. 

Behavioral factors

Stress,  sexual anxiety  (also known as performance anxiety) and feelings of insecurity in intimate situations often play an important role in premature ejaculation or loss of control. In some cases,  fear of failure  can become a cycle that is difficult to break. 

So, are there erotic toys that can cause a loss of ejaculatory control?

Erotic toys themselves are not responsible for causing premature ejaculation or delayed ejaculation, but there are certain ways of using them that can influence ejaculatory control depending on how they are used. But... what can they provoke?

Overstimulation or desensitization

Some toys , such as some vibrators or rings that generate very intense stimulation, can cause an overstimulating sensory response that accelerates climax. However, the effect they can cause in the long term or with excessive use is just the opposite: desensitization. This often results in less enjoyment and a risk of developing delayed ejaculation.


To avoid these effects, it is important to use erotic toys in a way that allows you to adjust the intensity of stimulation. In addition, alternating their use with other manual (or less intense) stimulation techniques can prevent both oversensitization and desensitization. It is key to pay attention to one's own body's responses and take breaks if changes in sensitivity or enjoyment are perceived.

Ejaculatory reflex training

If erotic toys are used to reach climax quickly on a regular basis, it is possible that they are “training” the body to respond more quickly, that is, training us to have premature ejaculation. Therefore, it could make it difficult to control in situations where longer duration is sought, on the contrary.



In contrast, to prevent this from becoming a problem, it is essential to use toys as a learning tool. It is recommended to use them in combination with breathing control exercises. Establishing a slow and conscious rhythm helps to strengthen ejaculatory control and prolong the duration of sexual intercourse.


But since every body and mind is different, we can't tell you specifically how different toys can influence your performance. What we can tell you is what is the most effective strategy for gaining ejaculatory control while enjoying your sexuality.

The most effective way to combat premature ejaculation

One of the most innovative tools to improve ejaculatory control is  MYHIXEL Control , the perfect combination of pleasure and self-control. And this solution has:


  1. A device, anatomically realistic, which will serve as an erotic toy, with the difference that this is specifically designed for you to gain greater control.

  2. A mobile application, which allows you to practice scientifically backed techniques to develop control over your ejaculatory reflex.


The interaction of the two creates a system that helps you prolong your time to climax and provides customized exercises to suit individual needs, making it an ideal choice for those looking to effectively improve their sexual performance.

Conclusion

Ejaculatory control is fundamental to fully enjoy sexuality, and although erotic toys can influence climax, they are not a direct cause of problems such as premature ejaculation. On the contrary, they can be useful tools when used properly. In fact, there are devices that combine pleasure and self-control, such as MYHIXEL Control , so... No more excuses for not wanting to integrate a game or two in bed! Are you in?

Anel Martínez

Author:  Anel Martínez (Sexual Coach at MYHIXEL)


Psychologist specialized in sexology.