Why It’s Urgent to Talk About Health, Wellbeing, and (Also) Anxiety in Bed

You’ve probably heard of commemorative days that sound like a joke, like Toilet Paper Day, which was recently celebrated (August 26). But there are other days that are more than justified, even if you might not think so. Today I want to talk to you about World Sexual Health Day, which is celebrated every September 4th, after the World Association for Sexual Health (WAS) promoted it to remind us that sexuality is not a luxury or a “bonus” to health, but an essential component of physical, mental, and emotional wellbeing.

The thing is, many times when people talk about “sexual health,” they immediately think of preventing sexually transmitted infections or contraception. And while these are key topics, reducing the conversation to just that leaves out a central aspect: how we feel, how we connect, how we take care of ourselves, and how the mind influences all of this. So, let me show you why your intimate health impacts your life much more than you think and why it’s good to take care of it just as much as the other areas of your life.

Intimate Health = Mental Health

For men, one of the biggest invisible challenges is performance anxiety: the fear of not “measuring up” in bed, of losing an erection, of not lasting long enough, or of not satisfying their partner. Sound familiar?

This kind of anxiety creates a vicious cycle: the more you try to control your response, the harder it becomes to relax and have good intimate wellbeing. At some point, the pressure generates so much mental and physical tension that what should be a nice experience ends up feeling like a physical exam.

In fact, one of the main messages of Sexual Health Day is to remind us that intimate wellness can also be “trained,” that confidence is cultivated, and that sexual health includes learning to manage nerves, self-criticism, and self-imposed pressure. But since it’s easier said than done, let’s talk about what’s behind 80% of dysfunction cases among young people.

Bed Anxiety: A Silent Enemy

Although it often goes unmentioned, anxiety in bed is much more common than we think. It’s estimated to be the main cause of dysfunction among younger men and is also present as a secondary factor in cases where the primary cause is physical. Some of its most common effects are:

• Decreased desire: when the mind associates it with stress, the appetite drops.

• Erection or ejaculation control problems: excessive worry interferes with physiological processes.

• Feeling of disconnection: instead of being present in the experience, attention shifts to “what will happen” or “how the other person will see me.”

• Impact on self-esteem: men who experience it often feel “less masculine” or “defective,” which only worsens the issue.

That’s why talking about sexual health also means opening the door to these topics and breaking the taboo that men are always confident in bed. Spoiler: they’re not. But the good news is there’s a solution!

Tools to Regain Confidence

Many men don’t take the step of asking for help because of personal blocks that make them believe what’s happening to them “has no solution.” Fortunately, that’s not true, since anxiety, like any other emotion, can be learned to manage. There are many strategies that can help you rediscover calm in bed:

• Communication with your partner: if there’s one thing I repeat over and over, it’s the amazing effect of sharing your fears and expectations. Starting to speak openly about how these fears affect you in bed helps reduce the pressure.

• Breathing techniques and  mindfulness: one of the most commonly used techniques in sexual therapy to address different dysfunctions is learning to focus attention on the present moment, which supports genuine arousal.

• Sex education: unfortunately, there’s still a lot of misinformation, and this lack of knowledge contributes to doubt. That’s why understanding how your body and the arousal cycle work reduces uncertainty.

• Sexual training with professional support: more and more specialists are trained to address these issues that affect what happens in bed. With them, you can work gradually to regain control and confidence.

But if you thought there weren’t more “independent” ways to address the most common dysfunctions among men, you’d be mistaken: this is where some innovative tools designed specifically for these difficulties come into play. For example:

•  MYHIXEL Ring is a medical device that helps maintain firmness during intimacy, offering simple and discreet physical support. The great thing is that, unlike other rings you’ll find on the market, this one lets you reach climax without discomfort, since its anatomical design leaves the ejaculatory channel free. This way, you achieve stronger erections without compromising climax.

•  MYHIXEL Control is a program designed to improve ejaculatory control, created for men who want to extend their encounters and reduce the pressure of “I have to last longer.” With a device and an app, you have everything you need to make progress from home, at your own pace, toward greater control.

Both resources work not only as practical aids, but also as psychological allies: they take some of the weight of worry off your shoulders and boost confidence to improve your intimate health.

Intimate Health: A Right and a Journey

Intimate wellbeing isn’t just about “not having problems”; it’s about enjoying an intimate life that is free, satisfying, and aligned with your needs. For men, moving away from experiencing intercourse through pressure and instead experiencing it through wellbeing is a fundamental step.

This September 4th, the reminder is clear: taking care of your mental health is taking care of your sexual health. And while the path may include information, communication, therapy, or supportive tools, the most important thing is taking the first step: listening to yourself, daring to speak up, and accepting that asking for help doesn’t make you weak…it makes you responsible.

In short:  World Sexual HealthDay is not just a date on the calendar, it’s an invitation to rethink how we live intimacy. To remember that anxiety in bed also deserves attention, and that there are resources that can help you reconnect with your wellness and with your body. Are you ready to take care of yourself 100%?